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Discussion Questions:

Session 1.1: Date Like You Know What You’re Doing


  1. What’s the BEST dating advice you’ve ever heard? Where did you hear it?
  2. What’s the WORST dating advice you’ve ever heard? Where did you hear it?
  3. Do you know someone personally who you feel dated WELL? What did they do RIGHT?
  4. Do you know someone personally who you feel dated POORLY? What did they do WRONG?
  5. What are your thoughts about marriage in our culture today?

Session 1.2: Do You Have a License to Date?

Chapter 1

  1. If you had to obtain a license to date, what requirements (i.e. knowledge, skills, tools) do you think you should have to meet to secure one? (If leading a group, have students write down at least three first and then share one or more of them with the group.)
  2. What would it look like to approach your dating life like a tower you wanted to build or a battle you wanted to win? (See page 9 in the book or look up Luke 14:28-32.)
  3. What can we learn from King Solomon about the impact romantic relationships can have on our lives? (See page 10 in the book or 1 look up Kings 11:1-4.)
  4. When it comes to the admonition to “guard your heart” do you personally tend to be more overprotective or careless and why? How would you describe the ideal balance? (See page 11-12 in the book or look up Proverbs 4:20-23.)
  5. How did the lemming painting analogy aid your understanding as to why so many seem to get hurt so badly in the dating world? (See page 12-14 in the book.)
  6. How are the relational patterns you establish early in your dating life (and even before then) connected to the sort of marriage you will likely wind up in? (See page 15 or look up Galatians 6:7-8.)
  7. How can poor relational choices and patterns impact you, even if you escape any consequences? (See page 16 in the book.)
  8. What friend/family member/mentor could you invite into your dating life to help you compensate for your blind spots?

Video Resources:

Check out the following three videos which elaborate on the topics addressed in the introduction and chapter one:

  1. The Wrong Way to Look at Dating (addresses how dating is more like learning to drive a car than ride a bike)
  2. What’s Really at Stake When You Date? (addresses the heart issues of dating)
  3. Do You Have a License to Date? (presents the importance of relationship education (LoveEd) for healthy dating)

Or watch all three videos in our Purpose Driven Dating playlist on our FMUniversity YouTube channel: