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The understandable (but completely wrong) conclusion many come to from reading about sex in the Bible is that sex is bad.

But let’s remember who came up with the whole idea! Our Creator!

Take note, this passage from 1 Thessalonians 4 (along with all the many passages like it) is not condemning sex. These passages condemn sexual sin.

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God, that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. —1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 ESV

So, it’s not sex that is bad, but sexual sin that is bad.

Consider fire. Is fire good or bad?

  • Fire in the fireplace of your home: Good!
  • Fire in the bedroom of your home: Bad!

Is atomic energy good or bad?

  • Atomic energy supplying power to your house: Good!
  • Atomic energy dropped on top of your house: Bad!

So the reality is this: Sex is far more than good! It is wonderful, powerful, and dangerous.

And it is this “dangerous” element that makes sexual sin so destructive.


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A dating life that leads to a life-giving, lifelong marriage doesn’t happen by accident. You need to know what you’re doing.

That’s why I wrote Date Like You Know What You’re Doing to empower you to:

  • Discern God’s will for your dating life.
  • Avoid heartbreak, rejection, and regret.
  • Date with confidence and clarity.
  • Win the war over sexual temptation.
  • Let your marriage hopes inspire, instead of impede your dating life.

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