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Want to know how to keep from going too far? What if the battle for sexual purity is only successfully won ahead of the battle?

Then you want to establish a sexual purity strategy ahead of time! And that’s what the above video from our LoveEd series, Hot Topics Handled with Care, is all about.

But if you really want to know how to keep from going too far physically in your dating life, especially when the two of you are really into each other, you need to get logical about sexual integrity.

NOT legalistic!


How would you use logic in your fight against sexual temptation? Check out this analogy, from our dating book, Date Like You Know What You’re Doing: Your DatePrep Guide.

Body Odor & Sexual Sin

Imagine you had a significant issue with body odor. An issue so serious you applied copious amounts of antiperspirant before every date. With a spatula. And even that was futile.

If this was your reality (play along with me here), do you think you would engage in frequent, strenuous physical activities on dates guaranteed to get you perspiring? Or would you enjoy one-on-one time with your date in the heat of day inside a parked car with the AC off?

Why would you do such things if you know you’ll end up sweating like a pig as you secrete a stench strong enough to repel a rabid skunk?

Wouldn’t you want to keep your body temperature and heart rate low, if not out of self-respect, then out of honor for your date, who would be forced to tolerate your natural scent of death? Of course you would!

Follow the Logic

Yet two sincere Christians, who know sexual temptation is a reality, will nevertheless frequently engage in sexually arousing activities that get their body temperature rising and heart racing.

  • They’ll watch entertainment featuring gratuitous sexual situations and dialogue that mocks sexual purity.
  • They’ll dress in such a way as to say, “Dinner is served!”
  • They’ll flirt with each other using sexual inuendo.
  • They’ll engage in a kiss-fest that gets at least one of their sexual engines running in the red.
  • They’ll enjoy one-on-one time with their date in the heat of the night, inside a parked car with no one around.

And some will even do all of the above, date after date, and feel a certain pride about “not going too far,” even boasting about holding onto their virginity card.

Then, if and when they do fall into sexual sin, they’ll be more or less shocked, saying things like, “it just happened,” or “we just fell into it,” or “we just lost control.” The word “just” serving to communicate that there were no preceding events or behaviors that could have predicted the sin that followed.

So, if you are committed to saving sex for the covenant relationship of marriage, refuse to engage in sexually arousing activities that get your engine running in overdrive. Save all that for the marriage bed too. All of it.

If you would like an entire book filled with the kind of practical, Biblical wisdom on sex, dating, and relationships you just finished reading, you can get it NOW! The above post is an excerpt from Date Like You Know What You’re Doing: Your DatePrep Guide. Here are other excerpts from the same book.

A dating life that leads to a life-giving, lifelong marriage doesn’t happen by accident. You need to know what you’re doing.

That’s why I wrote Date Like You Know What You’re Doing to empower you to:

  • Discern God’s will for your dating life.
  • Avoid heartbreak, rejection, and regret.
  • Date with confidence and clarity.
  • Win the war over sexual temptation.
  • Let your marriage hopes inspire, instead of impede your dating life.

Learn more here!

Want to Learn How to Control Your Sex Drive?

Better understand your sexuality and how to effectively pursue sexual purity in video form! This video featured on our FMUniversity YouTube channel introduces several different LoveEd series on sexuality.