It’s a compelling illusion believed by both beauties and beasts around the globe. And it’s keeping millions from marriage. Millions waiting for “the one” who fits their job description of “hottest hottie that ever hotted.” However…
The research is in, and “hotness” simply never shows up as an advantage in making a long-term, sacrificial relationship, like marriage, work.
You read that right! Physical appearance is not a determining factor when it comes to relationship satisfaction nor longevity. This is the Supermodel Marriage Myth!
So what am I saying? Marry some beast, hoping they’ll be transformed by your love into the most charming of princes or princesses? Only if you live in a Disney movie. Otherwise…
I’m simply urging you to put “hotness” somewhere down the priority list when you’re considering your dating options.
As for what qualities one should prioritize above “hotness?” Let me count the ways! Actually, I list 10 different things you want to know about your date (beyond their sex appeal, of course) in this post: Why You Don’t have Time to Make Out on a Date.
Finally, that post is actually one in a series entitled Purpose-Driven Dating, where we suggest an approach to dating that might make a lot more sense than what you’ve been doing, whether you’ve fallen pray to the Supermodel Marriage Myth or not.
It’s worth a look-see.
You can check out that entire series on our YouTube channel , beginning with this LoveEd video:
Each video in Purpose-Driven Dating has recommended readings below it, so you can go deeper and grow wiser in relationships. Just think of the difference it could make if you got smarter about dating!
Any burning question we could answer for you? We’ve gotten several from our recent series on Relation^ology (ranging from self-control to sex toys). We’ll be addressing those here on our Date Night Advice or in our LoveEd video blog. We’d love to address yours too!
DNA: It’s What’s For Dating
It’s NOT for couples, but for any wise individual who thinks they might want to get married sometime before they die. And would like to learn how to better build healthy relationships in the meantime.
Check out all three study guides in our store. You can walk through them on your own, but it’s more fun with friends (that and it kinda makes sense to grow in relational success in actual relationships with others), so consider putting together an FMU LoveEd small group study.
Even better? And ask a rock star married couple you respect to lead it![originally published: 12/7/2016]